Greetings. My name is Tom and I welcome you to Rock Bottom. I would like to thank Vince, otherwise known as the Gatekeeper, for this opportunity in hosting these articles. As I had mentioned in the my last posting, in living life we are constantly facing stressful difficulties and challenging circumstances. These include paying bills, relationships, work, family, politics, along with other day-to-day activities. Over time, such conditions along with the stress and frustration they bring may become overwhelming to burden pushing anyone beyond their limits. This is the purpose for the articles with the hoped outcome for anyone reading them to provide some assistance in bracing through the storm life brings. The next articles I will be composing will be part of a series in answering the question what comes next after hitting rock bottom.
One harsh truth I came to learn about life is we are affected by the consequences of our own choices and action along with those made by others. There are events which are beyond our control and at some point everyone will encounter. A death within the family, job lost, financial problems, breakups, addiction, crime, sickness or some other development that comes crashing down on you. The stress, the frustration and the emotion trauma to follow in reacting to the episode could either break you , you collapse under the pressure or be dragged down to some dark place. What I want you to know is you can recover, you can rebuild, you can move forward.
Movies are something most people can relate to and were some of the most inspirational quotes lay. In the film Any Given Sunday,Tony D’Amato says. “We’re in hell right now gentlemen. Believe me. And we can stay here, get the shit kicked out of us, or we can fight our way back into the light. We can climb outta hell… one inch at a time.” Whatever hell you are in, you can break free, but will need a lot work and all the heavy lifting will be upon you shoulders in taking the journey. The first step begins in acceptance.
Acceptance is the awareness and acknowledgement of what has occurred, the reason or causes of the circumstance and how present conditions are. The problem, dilemma or whatever crossed your path disrupting your life needs to be addressed and understood. However, this is not as easy, as I know people, including myself, don’t face the reality of what happened. As an example, a person has a gambling problems, loses all their finances, yet rather seek aid continues on believing the next game will pay off. Instead on reflecting on their predicament, they chose to live in denial of the situation by not accepting their current condition. Some retreat into a loop of what they could had done differently without considering what to do next. Then there are those who turn to addition to forget their woes.
Six years ago, my life turned upside after being laid off. In that time, I had a breakup, moved back home, and racked up debt until I found other means of income. Soon after, I fell into a depression along with an addition. Three years my life remained stagnate within no direction or goals as I refused to faced what my current problems were only hoping something will come along to change my situation. The truth is nothing comes along. Nothing changes. Nothing is all you are going to get. The only way to make the circumstances change I discover laid only with me by first acknowledging the problems I had to first contend with .
In this first step is to accept the reality that occurred. Know the reasons of why they happened. Identify the obstacle blocking your way. The knowledge you gain in learning how you come to where you are now could aid in determining the course you need to take in getting out. Know the enemies you are facing as you will be fighting against them in climb up from rock bottom. In the next article I will discussing what will be most challenging step, yet to take.
Here are a few quotes I found that motivated me on taking that first step.
“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” William James
“The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen.” Ralph Marston
“Acceptance of one’s life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices.” Paul Tournier
“Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness”. Eckhart Tolle